We all fall into the trap and excitement of creating a New Year's resolution every January, and by mid January or perhaps early February ( if you are a real go getter) you are despairing and miserable over the fact you stopped trying. The excitement is gone, the shame dragon has awoke and winter starts to look pretty long. This is exactly the phenomenon that makes sane people eat a whole bag of oreos, or shop online at 2 am. We are all just trying to feel better.
For the last couple of years, I have tried something a little bit different and a little less self depreciating. I have fashioned it more around the law of attraction and the concept of "where intention goes, energy grows." It's simple and I invite you to try it, unless of course you love having a gym membership you never use.
Choose a life theme. What area of your life do you want to focus on? Physical health, romance, new career? The possibilities are endless. For me, 2017 will be focused on cultivating my creative side, all things love, and whole body healing. Sounds daunting to some, but here's how it works. When you are focused on what you want to call into your life, the universe has this beautiful way of supporting you through synchronicity and opportunity. (It also explains why sometimes you get exactly what you said you didn't want, change your focus silly goose!) So by focusing on my theme of let's say creativity, I will be mindful of moments to feed that. Like writing, and later today trying my hand at upholstering my daughter's new footstool. When I focus on whole body health, choices for my mind, body and spirit become a little more obvious. Does it support my healing or detract from it? It is such a gentle way of navigating. When I choose to ignore what's best for me, I know there is something bigger going on and I call a friend, have dinner with my sista, or speed dial my therapist.
I suffered a huge heart loss this year, with the passing of my mom ( and best friend) so focusing on love as a way to heal my heart, simply repeating the word "love" has shown me examples of love. Mostly in funny little ways, like the other day when my knight in shining armour neighbour came over in his big red tractor to snow blow my impossible driveway after receiving 16" of new snow that the town plow insisted would be best to redeposit from the road and heap in onto the end of my driveway. In that moment I LOVED my neighbour! And everytime I feel love my heart grows a little stronger.
Get off the crazy train, life should be gentle, full of surprises, and maybe, just maybe, by focusing on what you want instead of what you don't, this year may just go your way.
Wishing you Peace & Plenty!